Thank you ! I did figure out something. The main relay (the green one), has power to the normally open terminal, instead of to one of coil terminals. I made four short jumper wires with male/female ends. Plugged in the relay using those, but swapped positions with the N.O. terminal, and the coil...
I have a 03.5 I bought from a recovery service. Racking my brain for a long time trying to get it going. Its for my sons first car. It was apparently in the middle of an engine swap turbo piping etc in the trunk. I finally figured out it is apparently an older engine. The head says “FS 15.2...